Aaron Payne is a north Queenslader to his bootstraps
Matt Marshall
September 21, 2007
HE'S a local boy, owns and rides horses, loves fishing, a punt and putting a smile on the face of his two-year-old nephew Connor.
Anyway you look at it, Aaron Payne is THE quintessential North Queensland Cowboy.
Fiercely competitive but ultra laid back, a straight shooter with no bulldust about him, what you see is what you get with the Cowboys' vice-captain.
"Aaron's very much a man's man, I wouldn't say he's a metrosexual, let's put it that way," Payne's wife Laura explains.
Metrosexual? No way. Payne is old school, the real deal, a product and shining example of the Cowboys' first-rate development system.
A graduate of Townsville's proud league nursery Kirwan High, on the doorstep of the Cowboys' Thuringowa HQ, at just 24 Payne is an established top-tier NRL player.
Already boasting 109 NRL games, he looms large in the shadows of representative honours, living the dream all North Queensland kids aspire to.
And it means the world to him, which is why a secret meeting with coach Graham Murray in late July left him feeling physically sick and stricken with panic.
"After that Tigers game (round 20's 54-10 humiliation ? incidentally the club's last loss) Graham took me aside and told me I needed to pick up my act or I wouldn't be picked in the team," Payne said.
"That gave me a real reality check. It was hard, he told me I needed to improve or I was gone and it's what I needed to hear.
"It made me realise I wasn't doing enough extras, it was the best wake-up call I could have got. My confidence was down, my mindset wasn't right, and that's half the battle in the modern game."
The 2006 Cowboy of the Year, Payne's significance to North Queensland's success is often lost in the lyrical praise of star duo Johnathan Thurston and Matt Bowen, but not in the assessment of fellow Townsville junior and league legend Gorden Tallis.
"No doubt Thurston and Bowen are great players, but his (Payne's) form has been the key to the Cowboys turning around their season," Tallis said. "He just carved the Warriors up and his combination with (David) Faiumu is lethal."
Tallis knows that for local product Payne, achieving success on the NRL stage for the proud league region is personal.
"Aaron is very proud of the team, very proud of the region and he hurts when they aren't going well," Tallis said. "No one likes to lose, but the best players . . . it kills them to lose.
"Aaron has that in him and I know it would mean a great deal to him to be a part of their first premiership side."
Tallis has played a hands-on role in the club's finals campaign and rates no player more important to their structure.
According to the former Kangaroos skipper, Payne's reversal of form since round 20 has been the determining factor in the Cowboys' subsequent seven-game winning streak.
"I'm not sure the reason but he definitely lost some confidence in the middle of the season. He wasn't getting out of dummy-half. But now he is taking them on and the team is benefiting," Tallis observes. "He is getting better and better each week and I thought he was their best player against the Warriors. He kept asking the questions and they didn't have the answers. I think he might have been trying a bit hard (when he was struggling)."
Trying too hard. It's a trait burnt in Payne's character like a scar.
"He works very hard in regards to everything, if he does a job he'll always do a job well, he's always 100 per cent," Laura says. "He hates losing, hates it. He must win, no matter what he does, he must win."
No half-measures, it's the overriding theme of Payne's character.
"He doesn't make excuses, he has a real honest reflection," says former assistant coach Neil Henry, who spent four years working with Payne. "He is a competitor. He embodies the spirit of the region. He has a real close connection to the area, he was raised there, his family and friends are there, he takes it personally."
As he has matured, Payne has come to realise football is a part of life, not the other way around, but he remains a perfectionist to the core.
"I'm always the first to admit I'm not playing well, but I've learned over time that football is not the be-all and end-all," he said. "I've got a lot better perspective now. It's football, I love it, but I've seen things happen to my family and friends in life that have made me take a backward step and put football into perspective a lot more."
Football is central to Payne's life. His father Mark represented Queensland in 1979 and his younger brothers Dean and Brady are playing in the Cowboys system and it is this family that keeps him grounded.
Payne relies immeasurably on his family, most particularly his older sister Amie, to give him honest advice.
"My grandmother and father-in-law are biased, even when I knock on they blame someone else, they think I'm doing everything perfect," Payne says. "But the rest of the family know how angry I get, yet they can be honest with me, and they always know the right thing to say. It helps."
Payne and his wife Laura Richardson ? an occupational therapy student at Townsville's James Cook University ? married young in December, 2005, on his grandparents' property. Aaron would not have it any other way.
"Family is number one in his life," Laura said. "We always see his family and my family every week. We live two minutes away from my mum and dad and next door to my aunty, we're all really close."
Away from football, Payne shares interests that confirm his billing as a "man's man".
He regularly frequents the "Reef" on his 5.1-metre tinny "Snag" and often rides his retired racehorse Bold Sweeper on his in-laws' 40-hectare property Kajila.
Payne has shares in other horses, including promising three-year-old Contested Bid and untried two-year-old Kickitbacklow, but it's grazing gelding Bold Sweeper that remains the apple of his eye.
"I normally wouldn't take a horse but when he retired, I had to have him," Payne says. "He's my sentimental favourite, he's got a beautiful nature."
Aaron Payne is living the dream of most North Queensland boys. But he won't let the dream consume him.
Courier Mail